Dr. Tawana Speaks: Personal Situation: What Do I Do?

So I do have my own personal problem and I would love to get suggestion on it because I don't know what to do myself.

There's this guy that I'm interested in, We been talking for a while now but we just started hanging out recently. I don't want to rush anything but I don't want to get my feelings hurt because I haven't been in a relationship in almost a year. I feel that he likes me too but I don't want to read into it, I want to see where this goes before I want to take it to the next step. He's a funny guy and I feel the chemistry between us and it really feels nice. 

The only problem I have approaching him about how I feel about it, he knows I like him. The question I want answer is: Should I wait to tell him how I feel or Should I pick a day to just talk to him and let him know how I feel? 

 

This is one situation that I can't even answer myself because I don't want to lose what we have because it's a nice feeling something that I haven't go in a long time. He's like my male counterpart and I would really want to see where it goes. 

 

Let's see how it goes...

 

Until Next Time,

 

Dr, Tawana Speaks...About Relationships & Love

Relationships is a part of a person's life. From the first crush, to the first kiss, to the actually relationship. Being in a relationship does have it's perks and you find that special person to complete you. But not all relationships have a happy ending, you do have breakups, hard ache but like my mom always says "There are other fishes in the sea. You don't have to end the road at one person." 

When you are in a relationship, it's like the happiest day in you life. Within your relationship, you think no one else is in the world but you and the person your with, that's what I usually call the "unofficial honeymoon" stage. Where you always together, hanging out chilling with your friends, going to out and having the best time in the world. 

Until the drama starts, either he/she is cheating or they are becoming very distant, there is trouble in paradise and it needs to be fix. In all relationships, there is always a slight drama, argument, or even a fight. 

Sometimes, it does end up in breaking up because the relationship just got too intense for words. This is what I call "Trouble in Paradise" stage, there is always drama or problems. I always say, no relationship is perfect, I don't care if you are the happiest people in the world, you have fights and drama. But if you love the person, It's good to work it out, don't give up on love because if you know that you can work it out, WORK IT OUT! 

Relationships has it's ups and downs, but if you know that there can be any way to fix the relationship, that's what you have to do to make the relationship work. Love one another and keep the relationship going.

Until Next Time,

Dr. Tawana Speaks...About Coping With Loss

I can honestly say that I dealt with my share of losing a family member or friend. I can honestly say it was such a hardship to bear. It's not the best feeling to lose someone close to especially someone who has been a part of your life since you  were young. Everyone has different ways of coping to losing someone, sometimes they won't talk about, they will share but they won't share a lot, they cry, they don't think about it or they don't feel nothing at all. There are ways to cope with losing someone, but I will get to that later.

Right now, I want to tell you about the first time I ever went through losing someone. I was a freshmen in college when it happened, It was a Sunday night, and I was doing my homework for my classes when I got a phone call from a elementary/middle school friend of mines (I never transferred after 5th grade, I was literally in the same school from 1st grade to 8th grade so we all were pretty tight.) telling me about his cousin, who I also had classes with and was really cool with, passed away on Saturday Night at a club in Pennsylvania. He was stabbed outside a club after an argument. Here is a link of the original article (http://citizensvoice.com/news/w-b-man-pleads-guilty-in-fatal-stabbing-1.1044823) I still couldn't believe it. Going to the funeral, was even harder because there was classmates I haven't seen it a long time, was a very sad moment. I remember the year before he got killed, I saw him in the summer and we talked he was telling me about how he was coming back to New York and how he wanted to change his life and better himself and when I was about to leave the last thing he told me was "I'll see you later." Those words have forever remember. Our last conversation, is what brings me to tears because he wasn't even make it to his 21st birthday and he was taking from us. I miss him everyday and I know that he is my angel looking after me.

Since the passing of my friend in 2009, I've lost my uncle that same year in September, My godmother in 2010, My aunt in 2012 and two of my grandmothers in the same year in 2012. I cried my eyes out for days when I lost them because they were apart of my life there were there for me when I needed them. I miss them everyday.

Even though I went through this lost in my life, I found ways to cope with them. These are tips on how to cope with your lost.

• All that anger bottling up inside, it's good to write it out in a story, a poem or a song.
• Thinking of the happy times that you shared with that person. Because they are no longer with you, doesn't mean that the memory of them is gone with them.
• Talk to someone close to you, best friends or family members are there for you.
• Sometimes it's good to just, sit in silence.
• Make collages of the memory that you shared with them.

Sometimes there are other ways to cope with losing someone. Just remember, that people might leave this earth, but your memory with that person will never go away. Their love and care will always be apart of you no matter what. They are now your angels watching over you, you know they will always be there for you no matter what they will always be there.

Until Next Time,

 

Dr. Tawana Speaks...An Introduction

Hey Everyone,
I came up with a brand new alter ego named Dr. Tawana. I'm a Psychology Minor focusing on Relationships and Sex Therapy, that's what I want to get into once I graduate. Dr. Tawana will be focus on real life situations and solutions also, tips on different situations. Later today, I will have a new topic in a little while.

I hope you all enjoy the "Dr. Tawana" Series and also if you have a topic that you want me to discuss on this series, leave it in the comments below or email me, which is on my page. I'm actually very interested in this series because we, as females, go through a lot of problems dealing with family, friends, college life, high school, sex, virginity, relationship, insecurities, etc. and sometimes you can't find someone who gets you or been through the some of the situations that you have dealt with, that's where I come in. I know I been through most situations that we go through so I know I can give my honest 100% opinion on any situations that is giving to me.

I really hope the female...and males can be part of this series with me, because this is something that I want to do with my life because I always love to help others with any kind of situations or problem and find a light at the end of the tunnel. Be on the look out for my newest, series which will be posted every Wednesday and Fridays. I hope you all enjoy.